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Social life means a community life in which order is maintained when a group gathers and lives, and it is a phenomenon found in various creatures as well as humans. Through social life, we not only exercise power and make demands on someone, but also take psychological stability such as a sense of belonging, achievement, and satisfaction. From the conclusion of how to do well in society, attitude and empathy ultimately decide. And this can be interpreted as a way of living in human relationships. You don’t have to look like an easy person to someone, and you have to know how to ask for it, but it is also necessary to be a soft and infinitely cozy person to others.
If the other person offends me
take an unexpected attitude
If I get a promotion before my opponent or get something better, I have to take the attitude that it was an unexpected situation and that this led to more than expected results. If someone goes well, there can be unpleasant conversations, and this should be taken lightly, showing the humility that it is an unexpected good fortune.
In the case of promotion, it is disadvantageous to inform that there are other invisible problems, such as the nuance of suffering, such as the expression ‘work only increases’.
If you break your promise
Assume an attitude of staying within expectations
If the meeting cannot be held because the other person does not keep the promise, it is good to treat the person in a businesslike manner until the end, saying that there will be circumstances. This behaves like it’s within my expectations and needs to hint that there is a plan B.
It is disadvantageous to show displeasure right in the face. Rather, if you knew that you could not keep your promise, it is necessary for me to contact you in advance and mention and confirm the promise again. Everyone gets tired under stress, but finding the cause from yourself rather than from the other person is the way to reduce stress.
If you find out about a lie
let things go naturally
If you tried to make a general appointment, such as a meal, in your work life, but it turned out to be a lie when you refused because the other person had other business matters, you should never show any displeasure. Rather, you need an attitude of enjoying this situation itself, and it is good to show that it can be so naturally and pleasantly.
The act of blaming ‘why did you do that to yourself’ is disadvantageous. Also, thinking like ‘Don’t you like me?’ is an act that pushes me into unnecessary thoughts that are not developing.
If the secret is disclosed
to be silent
In the case of sharing a secret that only you want to know, it is better to remain silent when you find out that the rumor has spread around you.
It is to criticize, criticize, or get angry. When you confide in a secret, you should always be careful, such as being prepared for everyone to know or keeping your mouth shut. The attitude of reflecting on myself is rather important than the other person.
If the other person is angry
Cut the situation and change the flow
If the matter is a problem because the promises and agreements are different, it is good to say that you will contact us after checking when the other party is angry and rushes at you. Breaking things down is necessary, but it’s important not to waste the other person’s time getting angry. It is also because you become more confident psychologically while getting angry, and in this case, it is better to change the means of communication such as email or text. It’s because you can take an objective attitude through writing without mixing the emotional part.
It’s not good to hit back with ‘why are you so angry’. Also, it is not right to judge and apologize for our fault without confirming it.
If you need to decline a party
Appealing and regretting the importance of prior commitments
If there is an important schedule at home and you have to go home unconditionally, if an unscheduled schedule is set, it is good to specifically appeal the importance of the prior agreement. Also, it is necessary to appeal to the importance of attending, but to let them know that they will have to leave right away, rather than regret the next appointment. Showing minimal sincerity is necessary in social life.
It’s not a good attitude to refuse with a single knife because you didn’t tell me in advance.
Envy is a healthy mind. You can grow yourself and act as a driving force for yourself. However, jealousy is just a rationalization of oneself because it is a negative mind about the results of the other person's well-being. The more I think of envying others, the better I can be.
The most important thing is to say that there will be circumstances and treat it like a business until the end. Showing what you consider to be within your expectations can also reduce personal stress. The more stress you have, the more tired you are, so be careful.
If it turns out that the other person lied, you should never show any displeasure. Rather, you need an attitude of enjoying this situation itself, and it is good to show that it can be so naturally and pleasantly.